Grandy's Tear Soup cooking tips

If You Are A Male Chef

From Tear Soup, a recipe for healing after loss.

   If you are a male chef

The world may not see you as the bereaved person that you are. Because of your gender, in our society you may be seen only as the support person--a role you probably play very well.

If you have been taught from an early age that "big boys don't cry," you may feel ashamed of your own tears. Other people may also be uncomfortable with your tears.

Don't hold your grief in. Find a safe place or someone who is not afraid of your grief.

People may tell you how strong you are when you hold in your grief. Don't confuse grieving with weakness and not grieving with strength. In fact, holding grief in is very hard on your body and can weaken your health.

Gender does not determine your grieving style, but it may affect the way you grieve.

Assume that your initial response to grief is the right response for you at the time. Try not to behave as others think you should--but as you need to.

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Tear Soup, a recipe for healing after loss  copyright Grief Watch 2001