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Grandy's Tear Soup cooking tips
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If You Are The Cook
From Tear Soup, a recipe for healing after
loss.
Story by Pat Schwiebert &
Chuck DeKlyen
Illustrated by Taylor Bills |
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If you are the cook
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This is your grief--no one else's. Your
friends can't feel your loss in the same way. It will not affect their
life the way it affects yours. And you may resent them for that. |
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At first you may think dying would be preferable to having to go through
this pain. Just try to stay alive. Sudden mood swings are normal. You
may suddenly be unreasonable and short. |
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Try your best to educate your friends about what you need and how they
can help. Be as honest as you can be about how you are feeling. |
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Don't give up on your friends if they let you down. But if they continue
to be insensitive to your grief you may need to distance yourself for a
while until you get stronger. |
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At first you will probably want to talk to as many people as possible,
but after a month or so, find one or two people whom you can count on
for the long haul to just be there and listen when you need to talk. |
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Write your thoughts in a journal. It will help you to process and also
to remember the new insights you are learning. |
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Consider attending a support group. Go at least three times before
deciding if it is helpful to you. |
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Be open to counseling. |
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Exercise, sleep, drink plenty of fluids, and eat a well balanced diet. |
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Pamper yourself. Take bubble baths. Get a massage. |
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Try not to compare your grief with another's. You don't earn points for
having a more painful experience than someone else has. And you won't
feel less grief if someone else's loss is worse. |
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You deserve to feel happy again. Being happy doesn't mean you forget.
Learn to be grateful for the good days. |
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Don't be too hard on yourself. |
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Long after everyone else has forgotten your loss, you will continue to
remember. Learn to be content with your private memories. |
A copy of the Tear Soup
Tips can be downloaded from the link provided below.
This download file was prepared for you to print and share with with
your support group or friends. Enjoy. For more info contact webmaster@griefwatch.com
DOWNLOAD
HERE:  Cooking
Tips in PDF Format
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Tear Soup, a recipe for healing after loss
copyright Grief Watch 2001
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